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The Art of Erotic Phone Talk

Anyone who says the safest sex is no sex has never tried phone sex. If done right, it can be fun, erotic, and satisfying. Definitely one of the advantages to telephone dating, everyone should try it at least once. Whether it serves as a stand-alone encounter or a warm up to a closer encounter, you won't soon forget it.

If you've never tried it, here are a few things you want to consider before jumping into Erotic Phone Talk:

DESCRIPTIONS ARE VERY IMPORTANT.

You're on the phone. You can't see them, and they can't see you. It's crucial to be as descriptive as possible. You need to create an image for them to work with. Something they can visualize. Describe your body, intimately. Describe what you're doing. Don't be afraid to use naughty words. It's just the two of you, and no one has to know. On the phone, you can spank them, tie them up, and lick every part of their body. Just don't forget to ask if they like it.

USE YOUR SEXY VOICE.

The sound of your voice creates the mood of the encounter. You don't want to speak in your natural voice. You want to talk in a low, hushed voice. Your voice should convey that you've got a secret, and it's just between the two of you. Also, don't be afraid to moan, groan, and breathe deep. Bedroom sounds are a definite plus.

CREATE A FANTASY.

Talk about the things you're doing to yourself. Let them know what you want them to do. Get the conversation going so you're talking about what you want to do to each other. Make it a game. It's fun and easy to play “Suggestion.” Take turns making suggestions of what you want to have done to you. Or what you want to do to them. Also, phone talk is a great venue for role-play fantasy (threesomes, spanking, bondage, toy play). The fantasies might not be real life situations but they definitely make for fun and sexually charged conversations. Don't be afraid to come up with some off the wall ideas. Even though you're in the kitchen wearing pajamas – no one has to know but you. As far as they're concerned, you're naked in the bath tub.

ASK QUESTIONS.

Be prepared to ask questions. Not just any questions; sexy questions. Things like: What are you wearing? Where are you? Are you lying down? Where are you touching yourself? Do you like that? Does that make you hot? Do you want me to touch myself? Do you want me to touch you? What do you want me to do to you? What turns you on?

GET IN THE MOOD.

One thing you can do to help yourself get in the mood is to create the right atmosphere at home. Turn off the lights, light some candles, and put on some soft, sexy music. Anything you can do to feel sexy will help you in the end. If you try phone sex when you're not in the mood, you may end up feeling ridiculous and just quit. You get back what you put in. So, put in the effort, it'll be worth it.

These are all great starting points. If the first attempt doesn't go well, don't give up. The first couple of times my feel awkward, but it does get easier. Remember that you don't have to actually do anything to yourself, because they can't see you. But, it does make the experience more pleasurable if you are actively involved. Whether or not your phone sex encounter leads to a meeting is up to you. You are better off deciding that before things start to get hot and heavy. This will make it easier for both of you to know whether it's okay to go all the way or stop just short before finally meeting up with each other. In the end, just relax and have fun.

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