Dating Check List
Mouthwash? Check! Directions? Check! Sense of humor? Check! Good things to remember, but let's review a different checklist.
The mental checklist. The one you prepare when interviewing someone for a job or a potential relationship. The questions and answers you'll want
to consider when determining if your date might lead to something more. You don't need all the answers on your first date, but it's good to have
some idea of what you're looking at going in.
Why? There's a time in every relationship where you reach a crossroad. It's that time where you're faced with the inevitable something that bugs you
about the person you're with. And that's when you ask the questions. What do I like? What can I tolerate? And what is a deal breaker?
Everyone has a different checklist. Some of the questions are universal. Some are specific to your likes, dislikes, wants and needs. To get you
started here are a few questions you might want to add to your checklist.
IS THERE CHEMISTRY?
Not necessarily in the sack, but a steady, flirtatious vibe between the two of you.
DO YOU HAVE A GOOD TIME TOGETHER?
Do you look forward to spending time with your date?
DO YOU WANT THE SAME THINGS OUT OF LIFE?
Career direction, cities you want to live in, children, and pets come to mind.
DO YOU GET ALONG IN EACH OTHER'S SOCIAL CIRCLE?
You don't have to like all their friends, but the ability to socialize without throwing their friends off of a bridge is a good test.
IS EDUCATION IMPORTANT?
High school drop out, trade school graduate, or doctorate from Harvard?
WHAT ARE THEIR FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS LIKE?
You can tell a lot about what a person will be like as a partner by watching how they interact with their family. Pay attention.
DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT?
Sometimes opposites attract, but sometimes an introverted person who likes to stay home with the Tivo and an extroverted person
who's the life of the party, do not make a match in heaven.
IS AGE IMPORTANT?
To some it's just a number. To others it matters. Decide on this one early. Someone who's too old for you now is only going to get older.
And if you have trouble keeping up with the young one's now, what's going to happen as you get older?
DO YOU HAVE ANYTHING IN COMMON?
You don't have to do everything together. But doing what you enjoy alone gets boring fast.
IS RELIGION IMPORTANT?
Religion can be a big issue. If you're Christian and your date is an Atheist it could be a major deal breaker. It's best to be honest
early before you fall in love and it becomes a big issue later.
DO THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF?
A partner should compliment you and lift you up, not get you down.
ARE THEY HONEST AND TRUSTWORTHY?
Honesty is a huge issue for most people. Someone who starts with little white lies (age, education, where they grew up) is usually
hiding bigger lies down the road.
DO THEY GET YOU?
Can they tell what makes you sad, what makes you happy, what makes you laugh - or are they clueless about who you are?
ARE YOU SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE?
Once you make it into the bedroom, it's essential that you have some compatibility. Don't think that things will get better with time.
They usually don't. One of the main causes of relationship breakups is sexual incompatibility.
ARE THEY SERIOUS ABOUT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP?
If you meet online, check out their profile. Are they looking for "the one to spend the rest of their lives with" or "a one night
stand with no strings." Don't try to mold someone into wanting what you want. It won't work.
Some of these checklist questions may be essential others may not. As a basis to start from, this is a good beginning.
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