The Peril of the Pick-Up Part 2 of 2
Pointing out all the things you can do to mess up a pick-up would be a waste of time if we couldn't also point
out the things you should be doing. Some of these tips may seem like common sense, but we've tried to gather a
few pointers that might just take you by surprise.
Once again, we used our savvy team of folks fed up with the pick up to help construct this list of suggestions.
Print this, laminate it . hell, have it sandblasted into your wall. Follow these tips and you're certain to see
a marked improvement in your pick-up success rate.
Make eye contact
The best way to let someone know you're into them is to look at them and make sure they see you. Doing that head
bob, 'I'm looking but I'm not looking' thing is the oldest trick in the book. You're much better off just letting
your interest be known.
Get to the point
If you're interested in asking someone to dance, just ask. Beating around the bush leads to pointless conversation
that may lead nowhere. If you're successful at catching someone's eye, there will be plenty of time for talking later.
If you aren't really confident, fake it: Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in a person, but not
everyone can have it all the time. Confidence is easier to fake than you might think. Inside, you may be freaking
out - so long as it doesn't read on the surface, you're doing alright.
Smile
Never underestimate the power of pearly whites to getting you what you want. A confident smile has a habit of
convincing people to take the next step. And if your smile can't light up a room, at least look happy when you
approach. The face of rejection leads to rejection.
Try once, then back away
You can still show you're interested after an initial rejection without lingering and beating a dead horse.
Sometimes, people say no because they want to see if you're serious. By maintaining that eye contact and a
smile about the situation, you might secure the ultimate compliment. being the one who's picked up.
Go after one or two, not nine
Giving one or two people your attention for the evening shows you know what you like, and you like what you see.
Spreading your gaze too thin reads as confused and desperate, so narrow your scope.
Be genuine
Just as using a line will get you nowhere, making up stuff you think "sounds good" on the spot will
come across as fake. Just be yourself. If they don't like you for you, it's never going to work out anyway.
Treat every pick-up as practice
The saying 'there are plenty of fish in the sea' may seem like something mom said when your prom date didn't
show up, but it's true. There are many reasons someone can say no to a pick up, most of which have nothing to do
with you. Step away, pick yourself up and try again.
Relax
What's the worst that can happen? They say no. It could be for a thousand reasons that have nothing to do with
you - why assume you did something wrong. Brush yourself off, chalk it up to experience and move on.
Don't look like you're looking
Believe it or not, you can pick someone up without ever doing a thing. People who are attached always get hit on
the most. Why? Because they give off the vibe that they don't care. Try it. Try hitting the town for a night with
your friends and don't give a second thought to the opposite sex. My guess is you'll have three numbers by the
end of the night.
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