Do It Like You Get Paid for It
People often ask porn stars how they make it look so hot and effortless on film. So, we hopped into bed with one to get
to the bottom of things.
What better way to figure out how a porn star has sex than to sleep with one! OK, so it sounds a tad slutty, but in all
fairness, I didn't actually know this guy did gay porn until after we'd already screwed. I thought the sex was unusually
good-I just figured he'd had a lot of practice. But it wasn't until I saw him straddling some stallion of a hunk poolside
in one of his many on-screen romps that I realized he was in a constant state of practice for his performance between the
sheets.
Since our purpose here is to guide you through all aspects of chatting, dating and ultimately, finding that special someone,
at some point, the relationship you nurture is going to progress to sex-and when that time comes, we want you as prepared as
humanly possible. So I started paying attention to my sometimes tryst. The little things he did, the ways in which he managed
to make every sexual encounter seem like the best sex of his life. I took notes, observed, and now. Soak in some expertise.
Make Every Sex Seem Like the Best Sex of Your Life
I just said it-now I'll elaborate. A huge chunk of what's enjoyable about porn is the performance. They say porn stars aren't
actors-I beg to differ. What's worse than watching an adult video in which the top looks like he's late for a meeting or the
bottom seems to keep nodding off? Nothing-nothing at all-kills a porn faster than bored stars and that goes for your sex life
at home too. If one or both parties seem like they'd rather be somewhere else, why not go there? But if one person is putting
on the performance of a lifetime-a "this is the most rockin' sex I've ever had" game face (with body movements and quivers
included-chances are the other party is going to up his game. And as I've said in all aspects of dating time and time again
(when it comes to confidence, interest, persistence), if it doesn't come naturally at first, fake it, because sooner or later,
your mind will follow.
Mix It Up
Say it with me now-sex does not have to be relegated to the bedroom. If you have a big house, dream big. Stairwells are not just
for getting to the second floor anymore. Countertops, sofas, showers, floors. so many places and positions to experience, why keep
it the same all the time? And just as a side note, it's best if it happens spur of the moment, as in, don't say, 'Why don't we try
having sex in the laundry room today?' That's a bit over-planned. But if you're in the middle of getting hot and heavy and one of
you wanders over to the balcony and spreads 'em, not only are you taking initiative-but it's friggin' hot.
Noise is a Good Thing
I'm not saying talk about your day while you're getting it on, but a bit of verbal response never hurt anyone. If he's hitting just
the right spot, let out a moan or two. If you're getting ready to climax, make sure he damn well knows it. The only benefit either
of you get by going through the motions without making a sound is a bit of extra time to concentrate-and we all know what happens
when you focus too hard. Crash and Burn Baby.
Passion Over Punching the Clock, Baby
Think about this for a second. What would you rather have. Fifteen minutes of the most passionate, thrilling, sweaty sex you've
ever had or an hour of the same old monotonous thang while you watch the clock. Gay men seem to be all about numbers. How long
can you last? How big is it? I'm here to say, just because someone goes a long time doesn't mean it's any good and just because
a guy's hung like a Clydesdale doesn't mean he knows what to do with it. Sex is about passion, about intensity. Put some energy
into it. Sweat a little. Make out like you can't get enough of each other, and however long it lasts is however long it lasts.
Stop watching the second hand, picky.
Make Sure You're Ready, Willing and Able
Three words to live by. We'll start with ready. Now I know you're thinking, 'I'm always ready to have sex.' Are you really? Are
you clean "everywhere." How's your breath? Is your stubble prickly or smooth? Did you shave and/or pluck in the right
places? If everything else is in place, you don't want to be the turnoff. Now willing. Sex is about communication, and if one of
you wants to do something the other one's not comfortable with, it can make for a huge disaster midway through the process.
Finally able. Pay close attention here. If you're going to swing your legs up over the chandelier, you'd better be damn sure
you're able to do it. Nothing is more mortifying than watching someone try and do something adventurous and fail. Miserably.
Now that you've got the basics-the framework if you will-check back next week for tips on taking your sex to the next level.
Trust me. you'll never make love the same way again, and much as they do in porn, you'll never feel like you're having the same
sex twice.
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